Online Dating Adds Video, Goes Local
Most traditional dating sites require a lot of work up front before you even get to meet the person (and even then, incompatibility horror stories sometimes result). Why not fast-forward to the fun part? Four new sites are helping online daters meet face-to-face more quickly, both online (through video speed dating) and in person (by matching users with nearby singles) so they can exchange real winks instead of the virtual kind.
A caveat: Though these sites have cool features, they may not have a huge user base--or a significant user base in your area. Since much of a site's value depends on the pool of people who participate in it, your results may vary.
(Just want to flirt? Try these sites.)
Video Speed Dating
Designed to remove the stigma associated with matchmaking sites for young adults, WooMe creatyes a speed-dating venue for singles between 18 and 24 years old. Signing up takes seconds. After supplying minimal personal information (no last name required) and a photo, you can start your own chat session with other users or join an existing session. WooMe is about getting people talking, not about assembling detailed profiles.
Unlike most dating sites, which restrict member-to-member contact, WooMe makes communication between users pretty much a no-holds-barred affair. Before I had finished confirming my account, I received multiple friend requests, nudges, and even a flattering invitation to join the "hotties" chat session--all popping up in the middle of the screen.
Theoretically, chat sessions can focus on any topic, but in practice most seem geared toward younger users. Topics like "bored and nuthn to do," "nobody better lay a finger on my butterfinger," and "PaNTieS display" are fairly common, as are more explicit ones. The "CEO compensation limits" discussion I hosted attracted the two oldest men I chatted with--a 27-year-old and a 28-year-old.
Chats have set start times, and the fun, funky music accompanying the countdown wouldn't be out of place in a porn soundtrack (not that I would know...). Most discussions match two or three girls with the same number of guys. Once the chat starts, you have 60 to 90 seconds to talk to each person one-on-one through some combination of Webcam, audio, and IM; most of the speedthroughs I participated in included Webcam and IM, but no audio. To see some examples, check out the WooMe TV part of the site. After the discussion ends, you can contact one of the other participants by sending them a friend request (which allows you to message back and forth) or a nudge.
To find more people to chat with, friend, or nudge, you can search based on WooMe's profile parameters, which include--besides age range and location--looks (hot, beautiful, fine, etc.), "in their element" (anywhere, in a club, behind a computer, etc.), and personality (party, smart, chilled, etc.).
WooMe is a bit of an assault on the senses, but it's also kind of fun. The developers get points for including a "computer Woo test" so you don't have to worry that technical difficulties with your Webcam or microphone might prevent you from discussing "hotties with bodies."
After sprinting through the lightning-fast 60-second chats on WooMe, I found the dates on SpeedDate almost luxuriously long. SpeedDate basically replicates the real-life speed-dating model, in which you chat with a complete stranger for 3 minutes. Just fill out some fairly rudimentary information, and upload a photo. Within minutes, you'll be set up on an online date, chatting through Webcam, audio, or IM (in my experience, IM was the dominant mode; I was the only person using a Webcam). After the date ends, you immediately notify the system whether the minitryst produced a match; and if both of you vote yes, let the messaging begin!
You can limit your pool of potential speed dates by age range and by general location (Near Me, United States, or Worldwide), but that's it. Be warned the interpretation of "Near Me" is fairly loose: I went on a SpeedDate with one guy who turned out to live about 200 miles away.
Besides going on dates, you can view users' profiles and flirt (send a brief message), wink, or (if you pay $60 per month for a premium membership) add special someones to your speed-date queue; but that's about it. Premium members also get to go drill down past the basic search parameters and into any form field in a profile, such as ethnicity, political beliefs, and height. On the other hand, no user--premium or free--can search open-text fields for interests, hobbies, or other information that might be hidden away in a profile description.
The special iPhone application for the SpeedDate service provides an especially satisfying way to scroll through potential matches, thanks to the design decision to place its "Wink" and "Flirt" buttons right above the large profile photo. That makes for a user-friendly interface with one-click convenience.